Become A Charismatic Leader With These 14 Tips

They say, you either got it, or you don't, but when it comes to charisma, you don't have to have it — you can learn it. People aren't born charismatic. They acquire it through knowledge and practice.

With charisma, you'll become more influential, persuasive and inspiring. People will become magnetically drawn to you, trust you, want to learn from you. Charismatic leaders cause followers to become highly committed to the leader's mission, to make significant personal sacrifices, and to perform above and beyond the call of duty.

Here are the most interesting points to help you rise to the top of your game:
1. You don't have to be the most attractive person in the room. Yes, we all agree that being attractive certainly has its advantages, but it's definitely not a requirement. Winston Churchill wasn't a sex symbol, but he's still considered one of the most influential leaders in history.

2. Make people feel like they're the most intelligent, impressive and fascinating person in the room. To make someone feel as if they're the only person that matters, do these three things during conversations:

• Lower the intonation of your voice at the end of sentences.
• Reduce how quickly and often you nod.
• Pause for two full seconds before speaking

3. Your presence should always be present. A study conducted by Harvard professor Daniel Gilbert estimated that 46.9% of the mind is spent "wandering."

"Being present means simply having a moment-to-moment awareness of what's happening. It means paying attention to what's going on rather than being caught up in your thoughts."

In the middle of a conversation, if your mind is somewhere else, your eyes will glaze over and you'll start making facial expressions not typical to a person listening. And your companions will notice.

4. Think of something pleasant so you appear to be sincere. Your brain doesn't know the difference between imagination and reality so when you imagine something pleasant, your body will react in an open, accepting manner and make you appear sincere in real-life situations. It only takes as little as 17 milliseconds for people to read your face so any slight "split-second microexpression" has a good chance of being caught. If there's an incongruence between our main expression and that microexpression, people will feel it on a subconscious level: their gut will tell them something's not quite right.

There's definitely a clear, visible difference between a social smile and a true smile so think of something pleasant and your smile will be a real one.

5. To appear more open and inviting, rise if you're sitting to be similar heights and keep your hands out of you pockets when you shake someone's hand. Make sure you have the right handshake. The right handshake will do more for you than an expensive suit will. Can you imagine someone powerful with a weak, limp, awkward handshake? Probably not.
Here are the worst of them:

• The Dead Fish. This happens when one hand is extended into another, but there is barely any movement.
• The Knuckle Cruncher. This happens when there's too much force. The violator is usually someone who doesn't know their own strength or someone who is trying to prove that they should be taken seriously.
• The Dominant. This happens when the hand's palm is extended down, which symbolizes the offender having the "upper hand." The opposite of this is "The Twisting Dominant," which is where the hand is normal at first, but then twists to gain the upper hand once contact is made.
• The two-handed, or the Politician's Handshake. This happens when the other person uses their free hand to cover the handshake, the other person's wrist, arm and shoulder.

6. Become an excellent listener by deliberately pausing and asking questions. When most of us are trying to show that we're listening, we typically wait for someone to be done speaking before we start. This is not a suficient method. Instead, ask them questions. If you're truly not interested, it will show on your face that you're secretly waiting for your turn to speak.

7. Choose your seat carefully around a table. This decision will influence the outcome of the entire negotiation.

When people sit acorss from one another with a table separating them, they tend to argue more and speak in shorter sentences. If you want to avoid confrontation, sit next to the person or at a 90-degree angle from them.

Also avoid seating them with their back to an open space, expecially if there is a lot of commotion going on behind them.

8. Don't compare yourself to others. It's in our nature to compare ourselves to others, but if you're criticizing yourself, "the threat response impairs analytic thinking, creative insight, and problem solving," says David Rock, the founder of the NeuroLeadership Institute.

This affects us personally, but also affects how others perceive us.

9. Combine your power with warmth to create a full, charismatic package. To show that you're powerful, you don't have to physically have great strength — you can achieve this status by maintaining a strong persona, such as displaying intelligence, like Bill Gates, or kindness, like the Dalai Lama.

When you increase your level of power, your charisma level also increases, but it's best to combine this with warmth so you don't appear too cold or dictatorial.

10. Don't let self-doubt affect your persona. In 1978, Georg